Today I wanted to address how I handle one of the many “out-of-my-control” situations people get anxiety about, especially when trying to stick to a certain calorie, points, sugar free, vegan, etc plan. Theres times in my life where I go with the moment, and know I can afford to treat myself to some wings and brownies. But for the most part, its never really worth it and Ive got some strong goals for 2013. I, just like the rest of you, need accountability, motivation, something new to keep me jazzed, and if I dont I can often slip into extra bites here and there, going out to eat too much, and feeling uncomfortable with my late night snacking.
So as Ive made some awesome changes to continue to be my best, we face Super Bowl Parties, my boyfriends birthday, Valentines Day, my birthdays coming up, yada yada yada- and Im sure youve got those situations x10. All amazing things that shouldnt be giving you anxiety! But lets be honest…they do! How can I say no? Finger foods are my favorite! How can I indulge without feeling HORRIBLE about myself after? How can I have a little without eating the WHOLE table!? How can I stick with whats important to me regardless of what anyone else thinks?
I dont feel the anxiety nearly as much as I used to but I still have a hard time saying no to people that are newer in my life and I want to impress/like me/not think Im a crazy calorie counter, especially if theyre good cooks and the foods to die for. However with over 5 years of experience, I know a thing or two about remaining yourself while still attending all the fun parties, pitch in, socials in the world. Im a people person after all and I LOVE to mingle- especially when I can do my hair for it.
Here are 5 tips Ive been using recently to stay committed to my goals:
1) I firmly believe a great hard workout will empower you stick to plan or just plain make you feel like a decent human being if you do have that brownie
2) Go in with a plan- not just a “well see” attitude. If youre going to enjoy a small plate of awesomness, then enjoy it with love. But stop there. Or if youre going to eat clean…do so…just know what youre going to do- with focus, a plan, and the right tools you can really form solid habits on what to do in any given situation.
3) Focus on the people youre there with, why youre there, and dont go to anything you’re attending just for the cocktails and food. Play a game, watch the game (intently), have amazing in depth (oh my gosh… in person!!!) conversations you rarely get to, take pictures, breathe in with your other senses besides eating. Smell whats around you. Feel whats around you. Theres a lot you can do to enjoy yourself besides stick something in your mouth youre going to regret.
4) Tell someone your plan. When people use Facebook, or their accountability groups, or their partners in crime/love…they are having someone back them up…and someone to disappoint other than themselves. Last night I told my boyfriend to come home before I ate the jar of peanut butter. We joked about it, but having it out there and realizing what it was …helped me say “hey Im bored and Im going to entertain myself with peanut buter- when can I enjoy your company instead?” Maybe its joking. Maybe its just plain being honest. Maybe its sharing with someone else, but its been working.
5) Last but not least- come bearing gifts! I have some incredible people in my life who stay firm to their nutritional values (wholistic, clean, etc) and they always bring 1-3 dishes TO DIE for. I came to my parents Super Bowl party and was so spoiled because she catered to me anyway…my amazing Mom made me my own filet of salmon and my Aunt and Uncle’s root vegetable quinoa dish. That paired with some shrimp cocktail, the brussel sprouts and green beans I brought, I wasnt tempted by anything else. Nothing even looked all that good to me, despite my Mom being an INCREDIBLE cook. Filling up with these delicacies made me feel incredibly satisfied. Also it will help with the guilt of not eating everyone else’s food (or just nibbling to be polite) when everyone knows you brought some awesome stuff and your plate was full when their plate was full. Now I did opt for 2 diet root beers later to enjoy the game with…I didnt feel guilty about it because in my opinion, I did awfully fantastic and saying no to diet cokes wasnt in my plan for that night. I knew I had to indulge a little in some way some how- and that hit the spot.
Obviously, not everything works for everyone, but you do have to personally go through the parties, the pitch ins, the nights out with friends, the in laws dinner, going out to eat, hosting a party, etc, etc, etc without 1) alienating yourself and not going or 2) having so much anxiety over it that you might as well have eaten a cupcake with all the cortisol youre producing (stress hormone released that fights fat breakdown). Listen friends, theres a million ways to change whats NOT been working for us- If I could tell you anything, its: you…are…in…charge.
What do YOU do to enjoy these parties with friends when so much of it is focused on food and drinks? I want to hear from you!
Always a pleasure, Maria “Like the Lettuce” Romaine
Trying out TITLE Boxing on Super Bowl Sunday!
My Mom’s incredible spread including Cajun Inspired Dishes I dont know how to spell…
My gorgeous Ma who’s in my most recent 30 Day Health Challenge and works out 5-6x a week already!