Hi lettuce heads!
I want to touch on the subject of being kind to yourself and why its so important right now. With the cold weather onset and the Thanksgiving feasts that just happened, Im finding many people Im surrounded by, including me, being hard on ourselves. We didnt get our workouts in a few days, so we give up all week… we ate too much on Friday so we might as well make it a whole weekend affair… who cares if I lost 6 lbs, I’m going to gain back the weight anyway… who cares I ate one piece, Ill eat the whole pie…sure I made some progress this week, but its not as good as Id like so I feel like a failure… and so on and so forth.
If this sounds like you, or you know you’re capable of this thinking, read this excerpt from “Crazy Sexy Diet” Kris Carr…
Heres a helpful exercise: Picture yourself when you were five, in fact, dig out a photo of little you at that time and tape it to your mirror. How would you treat her, love her, feed her? How would you nurture her if you were the mother of little you? I bet you would protect her fiercely while giving her space to spread her itty-bitty wings. She’d get naps, healthy food, imagination time, and adventures into the wild. If playground bullies hurt her feelings, you’d hug her tears away and give her perspective. When tantrums or meltdowns turned her into poltergeist, you’d demand a loving time-out in the naughty nature.
From this day forward, I want you to extend the same compassion to your adult self. As Terri Cole, an awesome therapist, life coach, and my best pal says, “If not you, then who!?”
I love, love, love this breakdown. By doing this very exercise, Ive been able to develop my best self. It has helped me escape unhealthy relationships- with food, with friends, with men, and with myself. Ill admit, after some therapy a few years ago, I started treating myself kindly- finally realizing that Im always doing my best. With time- I learn and have more to apply. After understanding this, the next best thing I ever did was become the sweetest, most loving, strongest and sincerest mother possible to… myself! Loving, supporting, and embracing the little 5 year old then and the 20 something me now.
I make silly mistakes. I might not be on my A game 100% of the time. Im human. I might just not know any better. Im real. However, when I DO have the power to assess, realize, and move forward, I am fortunate to have the clarity to do something about it, rock n roll. But when Im in a fog and not aware, I cant criticize, push away, or hate that confused lost person, I must be understanding of those very vulnerable times. Beating the little girl up who didnt know any better will not provide any resolve or peace- it will only keep the vicious cycle circling.
I hope that this makes sense- and if you could try…instead of being hard on yourself, be a mother. Enjoy the holidays, be kind, and give yourself a big, warm, bear hug- you could use it.