Its been a minute since I did a fresh post. I realized I recycle a lot of my ideas throughout my life, so I thought instead of writing about the same things over and over again, Id refresh old posts I had made. Hopefully you haven’t minded my “GREEN” approach to recycling old posts. However, this topic originates from a conversation I had yesterday with my Uncle who I very much look up to. He’s in the wellness industry, studies a ton and his passion is palpable- especially with his actions- you wont see him doing anything with food or movement that will HURT him- he trusts himself and what feels good in his body, not just because someone told him to, but because he’s investigated it for himself, through his own body and mind, and still has scientific explanations behind it, many of which he studies through courses and programs to their extent. At family gatherings we end up talking about health, our bodies, our minds, and our ideals. Its pretty neat to have someone I can talk to right within my own, big crazy Filipino American family.
What generated from this conversation was a confirmation of how much happier I am when Im treating my body right. He cited that people aren’t happy when they finally lose XXX amount of lbs, but rather when they’re happy (maybe empowered because they’re finally putting themselves first, or they’ve cleared their schedule of negative factors to make room for the positive) they actually achieve their goals. This is incredibly true for me and upon remembering this, Ive been making some changes. I am going to be taking off a few classes from my schedule so that I can get more rest, relaxation, time with my coaches and friends, play outside, make time for financial peace and prioritize my spirituality. I know my fitness classes and health business makes me crazy happy, but theres a bell curve where even too much can hurt. Constant sore muscles, lack of sleep, too much time on the internet, not enough sunshine, and pounding my body hard versus doing fun, active things throughout my week often leads to stress, feeling deprived, overeating, and to be honest, some self loathing. I learn this time after time. The taken on chaos is normally for a reason and I appreciate what comes with it, so I never regret any decision Ive made- I just promise to learn from it. As a result of going hard, Ive gained momentum in my business, packed classes, increased muscle mass, and an approach to my income, savings, and investments. Heck yeah!
However, after my California trip, I realized I want more time to play- do the outdoor workouts when we finally can, but even take OTHER classes, implement some yoga, do the beach body dvds at home that make my body feel better instead of worse, and it has helped me find time and freedom to put my nutrition into a plan (via the 21 day fix-adjusted with my activity level) that I can happily follow. I also learned while away, not eating properly really made me grumpy. Despite being in paradise, too many desserts, unnecessary starches, not enough vegetables, fruit, or water really ticked me off. I’ll be honest, I just couldnt eat that way for 7 days without feeling pretty horrible mentally. How did I realize this? My relationship is the best thing to have in order to learn about myself- its a mirror. When Im not happy with my choices, I dont want my boyfriend to compliment me or touch me, nor do I want to wear tight athletic clothes and instead Id rather escape into more naughty food- thats about the only fix that gets me to feel better and then the cycle starts again. But when I appreciate the temple I have, put in the right food, follow a plan that works for me, adjust as I continue to realize what works for me, and incorporate a workout schedule that leaves me feeling strong not wore down, I am SO STINKING HAPPY. I bounce off the walls, wear my tight athletic clothes, am playful with my partner, and if someone calls me beautiful, I wont want to roll my eyes, I’ll smile and accept it with confidence. There might be NO visible difference to someone else, but if you don’t feel great, you’ll never accept people thinking you are nor will you exude your true strengths that are buried deep within.
There of course are times where things cant go according to plan and YES you’ll indulge just like I did on vacation, eliminating the guilt and negative voices as quickly as possible is key since they are not valid, they ARE NOT TRUE- however Ive realized what makes me mentally happy and a better person and what doesn’t. I also recognize what leads to these behaviors, and its often feeling deprived, tired, fatigued, overworked. I don’t want to dive into a Sundae 5x a week just because I worked too hard, so instead Im going to NOT work as hard and focus on my happiness. The nutritional plan will be that much easier to follow and I’ll be happier through and through. Trust me I still love my endorphin fixes and the occasional splurge, but knowing that my biggest obstacle to achieving goals is feeling overworked, sore, tired, and deprived- well I just am going to continue to eliminate those factors by 1) prioritizing my spirituality 2) not teaching on the weekends/limiting teaching to 5x a week instead of 7-8 3) teaching in a different way that doesn’t overwork my body 4) getting more rest 5) spending more active, fun time with loved ones and friends 5) enjoying the 21 day fix plan of prioritizing all the good stuff while still having some of my favorite healthy treats through the week. 6) Creating a weekend plan where I still feel like Im enjoying my food and fitness in a variety of ways (going to new health oriented restaurants, new studios, yoga, playing outside). 7) BONDING with my partner whether financial planning, spiritually, or doing something active together
I share this because I want you to be the detective in your life to see what serves you, those you care about around you, and what helps you pursue your purpose… and what doesn’t. You can only try new things, and learn from there. Whether its activities, food, rest, more workouts, less workouts, switching up your routine, teaching more classes, teaching less classes, or sticking to your routine- everyone’s got to look at their own situation to create a sustainable, HAPPY, healthy life.
Whats one thing that makes you grumpy and gets in the way of your goals? How can you minimize that stress or even completely eliminate it? Thank you for reading this blog/journal entry. If you ever need help figuring out a game plan for you, Id love to chat. Remember, you’re in charge!