As a person who reserves most of her fun for the weekends, I often have much to share with you come Monday morning. A lot of it I jot down, wanting to emphasize certain important points I feel strongly about, but there was one thing that stuck with me this weekend. I read an article about the Know Sweat Workouts (Indianapolis gym, known for its intense Taerobics workouts) owner Ian McCranor. He was featured in the Active Life Guide magazine. They highlighted just how blunt he was in his approach. “Stop being “fat””, he says, often with a huge reaction …leaning towards the negative. I definitely hear his point and I clearly hear the complaints many people express. As a person wanting to be responsible with their actions, especially towards people’s feelings I often soften the blow of my opinion at the fear of coming off insensitive and brash. However, what I took away from his interview, was that we ALL currently have full glasses. We have to sacrifice certain things in order to get what we truly want, of course if its not currently in that glass. If were talking about weight loss, a healthy lifestyle, improved fitness, other things will be emptied out in order to make room for these wonderful additions.
Now I agree that theres nothing better than being honest with yourself. Sacrifice is necessary. However, as an optimist, I feel theres such power behind positivity and that looking at these sacrifices as an incredible change for the better will help you see the light at the end of the tunnel. To be real here, the pain in losing things is enough to have one give up or quit before they even line up for the challenge. We see it all the time. However if you feel like you are FILLING your glass versus emptying it, with amazing habits and the lifestyle youve always wanted, you’ll want to make the changes. You will be motivated, but in order to stay with it, you do have to be realistic about what these wonderful additions force you to empty out. Its hard to have the positive without the negative. Its all about looking at it positively AND realistically.
Here are some perfect examples of how I know Ive made room for my healthy lifestyle and had to give up other every day situations. I for one do not go out socially the way a lot of people in their 20’s might. So 1) I dont drink often and I know that this gives me a huge advantage. Definitely the crazy calories in alcohol, but on top of that, the staying up late, the food you eat at 3am (lets be honest, you wont want a salad), and then feeling lethargic the next day, lacking motivation to pursue the healthy habits that are already hard to implement in the first place! All of these things happen to me when I “go out hard”. Now I love to socialize and dance the night away, but there are times where this is worth it and there are times where this is not. 2) I also dont partake in office free for all treats (pie, cake, pizza, beer). I definitely risk criticism, and even offending people. But theres no room for that in my glass whatsoever, or else it will get in the way of my healthy habits. If I said yes to everything people offered, I would be just like any other suffering person, feeling like I wasnt in charge of my own body. I often say no…and the more you say it, the less bad it sounds. Trust me, I hate saying no 🙂 3) I choose where I can be lazy. Cosmetically, I loathe the time and energy it takes to do my hair, make up, pluck, shave, lotion, blah blah blah. I love looking pretty…however during the week, its not on my priority list to look like a beauty queen. I often admire my friends who can put themselves together every day fashionably, perfect pouts and updo’s. Maybe its the fact that I wore uniform all week back in school or work at a very casual office, but I dont get to primp and prime myself the way one would if they didnt have such a full glass already. Dont get me wrong, its incredibly important to look presentable, and impressions are everything. But because of this, I have found minimal ways to glamourize myself. Whether that be fashionable headbands, hats, scarves, or pony tails, or very low maintanence makeup, Ive made due. I know I look 10x different on the weekends when I have more time, but I need to do whats necessary every week to get to work on time and do everything else. I sweat through my hair every day and actually feel prettier with natural makeup versus heavy liners, so this is where getting to work, working hard, preparing my classes for the week, working out hard, organizing my food, keeping the home clean, paying the bills, and spending time with loved ones all FILLS my glass. And well its pretty darn worth it.
Im not the most popular girl on the block (especially living in Broad Ripple) and limit my drinking nights out, Ive learned to say no even if it means offending my coworker’s wife’s sister’s daughter’s cooking skills, Im cosmetically lazy …and Im proud of all these things! This pride isnt there because I want to come off snobby, mean, or like I dont care. Thats far from it, this pride resonates because of the incredible happiness I receive from everything else that comes first. Thats key, because theres nothing cool about shafting others or not caring. Fill your glass with whats important to you, but dont lie to yourself about just what else you might become lazy towards. The person you’ll become will far outshine anything you might be missing out on.
Heres me out with friends enjoying First Fridays and Fountain Square. I had two glasses of wine the whole night, had a wonderful time and was able to drive safely home!
Heres me in my new Jeep. I’ll be honest, because I made room for an exciting purchase this weekend and a new addition to my lifestyle Ive been wanting for a long time, food was the last thing on my mind. Instead I enjoyed the fresh air and daydreamed of a Route 66 vacation around the corner. West Coast anyone?